What Do You Do With Grief?

I lost my Dad in November. Even now it is hard to write about it. I’ve never had a loss like this before. I’m not one that likes to cry or be upset, so I’m having a hard time with the grieving process because I don’t like it.

Dad and Me

During the grieving process it is important to have a good support system around you. My family, friends and coworkers have all been there for me. I’m deeply grateful for that. And I also know it is important to let yourself grieve. The experts say there are Five Sages of Loss and Grief. These include Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. I’m somewhere between stage 2 and 4. I don’t know when I’ll accept it. Does that make sense??

One thing that has helped me even when I got the call that my dad was in the hospital, is essential oils along with prayer. One my way to the hospital I grabbed Valor for strength, and Peace & Calming and Copaiba to keep me calm through what I knew would be a hard process. I knew I had to keep my head about me for myself, my sister, and my family. I can freak out later, but this was not going to be the time for that.

Of course, these three oils also helped me during the days and weeks after Dad’s passing. In talking through the process with my coach, Caroline Boudreau, she suggested I also add Joy and Trauma Relief to my repertoire.  The day Dad died was very traumatic, not just because he died, but because my sister and I had to make all the tough medical decisions. Although I’m a grown woman, I felt like my sister and I were the  little girls in braids that we used to be making Grown Up decisions. This was especially traumatic for me.

So here I am five months later writing this through tears. As I wrote above, I haven’t reached stage 5 of loss and grieving. The oils did not make me skip a stage and make all the hurt go away. But they did and are a definite help in getting through the stages, giving me strength to process this grief so I don’t just stuff it and see it reappear in my health and behaviors. This, along with prayer and the support of loved ones is getting me through.

I hope my story will help someone else. God bless you in your process.

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